Salutations, super sex-positive supporters!
I'm sure some of you are wondering, like me: How did it get to be September already?
August was a bit of a mixed bag: Slow on the Foundation-building front, but full of cool people and events. We've been waiting on feedback from our tax lawyer on the Effing Foundation bylaws and articles of organization, so we're almost ready to incorporate.
Sex Geekdom is a collection of meetup groups for sex nerds all over the world that promotes meaningful and nuanced conversations about sex, pleasure, and consent. Kate was in town to celebrate the launch of the new Boston/Providence hub. If you're interested in making connections and building community with other sex-positive folks, you can find a Sex Geekdom hub near you.
One of the values of Sex Geekdom that's also important to the Effing Foundation is the need for a "holistic understanding of 'sex-positive'": we don't mean that everyone should be having more sex, or that some types of consensual sex are better than others. This month Miri Mogilevsky wrote a great piece on this topic, "10 Things Sex Positivity Is Not" -- sex-positivity is not actually about liking sex, for starters. (I'm serious!) Just because you like sex, that doesn't mean you value consent, or support the rights of queer and trans folk to practice their sexualities, or that you respect asexual people -- and our sex-positivity includes all of those. Go read the rest of the article for more; it's well worth your time!
Folks in New York & New England, mark your calendars: I'll be at the Geeky Kink Event November 4-6 at The Radisson of Piscataway in New Jersey. I'll be demoing The Hammer as part of a sex-tech presentation, and I'll also be hosting a teasecraft meetup for folks interested in making their own sex toys & BDSM equipment. Hope to see some of you there!
Good luck to all of you who are going back to school or helping others with school preparations! Thank you again for your support and encouragement: it's what keeps me and the Effing Foundation going.
~Kit Stubbs, Ph.D.